A recent article discussed five life skills that are essential for wealth, health, and success during your life. Research from the University College London uncovered that mastering emotional stability, determination, control, optimism, and conscientiousness will help your overall well-being as you age.
No matter your age, it’s never too late to begin to recognize and learn these skills. Perhaps you’re wondering, “How do I master these skills?” or “How do I know if I have them?” While it isn’t necessary for you to master all of these attributes, you should still try to become proficient in as many as you can. The more you’re aware of these characteristics in your everyday life, the more likely you are to achieve wealth, health, and success.
The definition of emotional stability is just as the term sounds: the ability to keep your feelings stable and balanced. Emotionally stable people are confident, supportive, and not afraid to seek help when needed.
To find out whether or not you are emotionally stable, ask yourself these questions:
Do I take other people’s behavior personally?
Do I get caught up in petty arguments?
Do I react immediately instead of responding mindfully?
Do I try to be perfect all the time?
If you answered yes to most of these questions, then you could use some improvement with this particular life skill. The first step to mastering this attribute is first recognizing it as a weakness.
From there, try adjusting your perspective when confronted with a negative situation into something more positive. Remember to stay balanced with all of your thoughts. When someone gives you constructive criticism, remind yourself that you’re only given that advice to become a better version of yourself. The feedback isn’t an attack on you, but rather a praise on your potential.
Adjusting your perspective will also help you check your expectations on life. Life is full of highs and lows, so always be prepared to endure the good and the bad. Don’t move through a situation thinking everything should play out perfectly, but also don’t tell yourself that you’ll fail!
Have you ever heard someone say, “Where there’s a will there’s a way”? Well, when it comes to health, wealth, and success, you must be determined to accomplish certain expectations you set for yourself. To perfect this skill, start to set goals – big or small – each day, and then be driven to reach these goals.
If you want something, go after it. If you want to do something, go do it!
As a child, you are taught to have self-control. You learned how to behave in the classroom and handle your emotions in difficult situations. Despite what was instilled in us as a children, we still have issues controlling ourselves when faced with temptation. We all have bad habits that we just can’t seem to break.
Self-control is a life skill that will take a lifetime for me to perfect, but you’re on the right path if you’re able to detect your bad habits. Do your best to remove temptation, measure your progress when you commit to something, and prioritize things.
Imagine you’re applying for a job. You make it through the first round of applicants, land an interview, and then find yourself in the top two. But when it’s time for the hiring manager to make a decision, the job just isn’t for you. You can look at this situation in two ways. First, you could be hard on yourself and feel like you’ll never get another job. Or, you could think of the limitless other opportunities out there and go find the job that is a better fit for you.
If you think like the latter, then you can call yourself optimistic. Remember the glass half full saying? When you see a glass of water filled halfway, do you say the glass is half full or half empty? If the glass is half full to you, then optimism is a strong suit. If it’s half empty, then this is an attribute that could use some improvement.
Becoming optimistic is just a shift in your mental attitude. If something goes wrong, try to make the situation a positive. Focus on solutions, not problems.
Those that are conscientious are careful, vigilant, and aware of their surroundings. They understand how their actions affect others around them. Conscientiousness is also one of the “Big Five” personality traits you learn about in an introductory psychology course. These traits are used to evaluate an individual’s personality.
Some of the best ways to become more conscientious are to get organized, set a schedule, follow through with your plans, and utilize reminders. There are several apps you can install on your smartphone to set daily reminders, or you can stick with classic pen-and-paper notes!
It’s okay if some of these skills are weaker for you than others. That doesn’t mean you won’t find wealth, health, and success. However, understanding these skills and trying to exercise them in your everyday life will help your overall well-being.